Pastor Wa's Blog

I'm a music nut. No doubt. I will not work without Music, and will most definately not drive without it. And i love my music loud. So i can 'feel' the soul and spirit of the song. (Pretty deep huh?). Well of course Evie doesn't like that! She thinks music should be played softly and when necessary. Well, i will resist the temptation to bring on a fight here about how to listen to music, the how to is up to you. This post is to kinda let you in on my favorite Christmas music. Since the holidays are here, You SHOULD be playing some holiday music. The problem is most people only know of Boney M's old classic christmas music. That's old. Way too old. You need something fresh. There are many artists out there with pretty good christmas albums. Since music is one of the ways we get ourselves into the season's mood. I hereby give you a list of my favorite Christmas albums. Feel free to comment on albums you personally like, and let's see what comes up 1.

Of course Many Kenyan preachers are wanting. Heck i said it! Well, see i'm one of them, and truth be told, there are times i've listened to them (and myself) and gone like "Wooooo, you guy!" I mean, other than the fact that they are men of God and we need to honor them for that, the kind of preaching going on around here needs some help! Then you add the hollering and screaming and voila! what an anointed service that was! If you don't believe me, watch GBS. I mean its just painful. And then they will ask you to M-pesa your donations so others can be 'helped'. Hao 'watumishi' wanajua kukemea kila aina ya roho, hata roho ya Punda wanajua kutoa! So it was quite refreshing for me to stumble upon a preacher that firstly, made a lot of sense. And i mean common sense, and at the same time was anointed and very biblical. Bishop Harrison Nganga. What actually turned me on to him was a statement he made in the middle of his teaching. He said, "Som

How you define life determines what you get out of it. Here's something to laugh about. Seriously! 1. Cigarette: A pinch of tobacco rolled in paper with fire at one end& an idiot at the other. 2. Love affairs: Something like cricket where one-day internationals are more popular than a five day test. 3. Marriage: It's an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree and a woman gains her master. 4. Smile: A curve that can set a lot of things straight. 5. Lecture: An art of transferring information from the notes of the lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through "the minds of either". 6. Conference/Seminar: The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present. 7. Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine will-power is defeated by feminine water-power... 8. Classic: A book which, people praise but do not read. 9. Criminal: A guy no different from the rest... except that he got caught. 10. O

There are some pretty mad people out there. Not mad insane, mad Angry. Very angry. They have found out they were conned or taken. And the sad thing is, they believe it’s the church’s fault. As a pastor, I’m bothered that the church has somewhat contributed to a lot of the singleness we see around, and to some extent, the relational messes we see people battling with. Truth is; the church has brought a lot of healing and restoration to a lot of people in relationships. Probably more than we could ever quantify. I’m not minimizing that at all. But when we as church leaders put up ridiculous expectations on single young people, trying to control who they are and what they are to do, we limit their ability to interact with others and really put off any good chances of them finding marriage partners at the right time. No wonder we are being overrun with accusations of keeping aged caged frustrated singles! I personally believe Marriage is up to us, not

Sometimes, when relationships go through cycles, some of the stages can almost seem to contradict the very life and purpose of that relationship. You may be with someone that was very exciting in the initial stages. Love is an interesting thing. It really is like a drug high, in the beginning, you are basically are on another planet. You can’t think, your reasoning goes bonkers, they are the perfect human being, suddenly no one understands you at all, you can do anything for them… blah blah.. you know what I mean. Then for some reason, especially after some time of interaction, (not necessarily sexual), you hit a wall or plateau of sorts. Suddenly, they are boring, or they are not crative or just plotless, or just plain old boring! Many people don’t understand this stage, and they either, 1. Push it further-Let’s get more physical, lets run away, or something crazy like that…. 2. They begin to salivate on what’s cooking on their next door neighbors grill! If you have ever gotten to

There is a question every single woman that has been in a couple of ‘potential relationships’ that for one reason or another fail to materialize asks themselves, I’m I just a good chic or a good woman? How she will answer this question holds the key to understanding why some women seem to be husband magnets while others just have to keep holding out hope forever. The answer in my mind is simple. While I don’t claim to be a master of this boy meets girl thing by any degree of the word, (there are those well versed with it much more than I); I do know one thing. When a man wants to settle down, he simply looks for a good woman. Not a nice chic. Because while nice chics are just that, nice, a good woman is SAFE. Nice chics are for going out, hanging out with, doing fun stuff, friendship and talk, and just do things with. A good woman? That’s someone a guy wants to live life with So, what’s the difference? I’m glad you asked. First, let’s define marri

In my interactions with single moms, specifically the never married ones, I have found an interesting yet sad paradigm on how they view themselves, and how other men do. I’m not sure why, probably its how our culture has allowed us to view them, but there is a great need for us to maybe take a second look at this woman. See, when a woman ends up pregnant, because she really thought this was going somewhere, or because yes they had sex, or they were reckless, or young and foolish, or whatever, her life is never the same! Now, the typical Kenyan scenario that unfolds is not pretty, I’ve seen it countless times, and it looks something like this. 1. She panics; and then all kind of thoughts run through her mind. Then she decides to; 2. Tell her man: and that leads to dilemma number 1 where Mr. Prospective daddy; either accepts the responsibility and they end up together with his support (Yay!) or he; 3. Blames her: for being reckless, or wanting to trap him, or denies responsibility,

We are wired for sex. This is true of how we are made, and how we live. Think of it, our identity is tied in our sexuality, male or female. It all starts at birth, and by the time we hit teenage, our hormones are raging and sexual feelings soaring. Then you meet someone new, you like them, they like you, the chemistry is unreal, you can’t eat, think, or sleep without them in your mind. When you get together… is like there is enough electricity between you two to put Kenya Power out of a job (Which actually may be a good thing seeing they can’t keep our lights on for a straight 24 hours)! You realize you love them and they love you, and you have what John Hagee calls an ‘overwhelming urge to merge’! If everything is in place, you have love and understanding, then you can go ahead and consummate your passions, right? Weeeell, let’s just say, that’s the easy way out. Or at least so it seems. Scripture commands us not to do it yet. At least not until our wedding night. The Big question

When the book men are from Mars and Women from Venus came out, it garnered incredible talking points on the differences among the sexes and their ramifications. I’ve personally never read it, though I think it once was somewhere in my library. Even so, i’ve heard it said endlessly that marriage is no fun. Especially for women. I beg to differ. Probably the happiest women are married ones; sadly, probably the unhappiest ones are also in marriage! Its an interesting paradox. One fact we need to know upfront, A man never holds the key to a woman’s happiness! Never! When a woman makes this mistake, get ready for some serious domestic ISSUES!. A woman’s happiness comes when she knows who she is, and living out that revelation to the max. Here is what I found to be the one determining factor to a woman being happy in marriage. Ready? EVERY HAPPILY MARRIED WOMAN HAS A VERY LOW TOLERANCE FOR BAD BEHAVIOR, EXCUSES, INDECENCY, WEAKNESS AND FOOLISHNESS IN HER HUSBAND! There. I said it. Sh

Every now and then, shops and business places, homes and hotels close down to get redone. This happens as a necessity. The décor becomes too boring, new ownership, change of identity and entity, or just because. Usually, when we see this sign hanging somewhere, it usually brings a sense of expectation and excitement. Something new is about to be unveiled. What will the new colors be? How will the décor look like? How about the menu? Are they gonna loose that sour waitress? Questions questions questions! It’s usually time for change, because old won’t cut it, we have to close for renovation. Our lives do need renovation as well, especially where relationships are concerned. When was the last time you had a relationship overhaul? Or are you too needy to even dare institute change in the fear that you will loose? A couple of thoughts on renovation The people on the outside do not see what’s going on : Even the closest ones to you do not have to always know and approve what chan

We will all face a broken or dead relationship at one point or another in life. Its crucial to know the power of moving forward and becoming bigger and better after the hurt. I challenge you to deal with any relationships that need closure in your life, it’s a great way of getting your emotional health back, and your life back 1.      Grieving is necessary : Take the time you need to grieve your loss. It may be a job, a loved one who passed on, a divorce, end of an engagement, or whatever. The reason we mourn is to bring closure to the emotional attachment that we had with the person, and its extremely important to do that. Its also good to note that grief is private and personal and people manifest it differently. Since no two people are alike, go through it your way, and if someone close to you is grieving, allow them to get the emotions out, without necessarily going overboard. Also, remember that grieving MUST have a specified period. I suggest up to six months or so depending on

Hey ya'll, I found this somewhere and thought it to be hilarious, with all the stuff being said about men, we need to relax a little and not take life too seriously. So here you are; Go ahead and laugh. 1. Men have higher body temperatures than women. If your heating goes out in winter, I recommend sleeping next to a man. Men are like portable heaters that snore.   2.  A good place to meet a man is at the dry cleaner. These men usually have jobs and bathe. 3. Women take clothing much more seriously than men. I've never seen a man walk into a party and say "Oh, my God, I'm so embarrassed; get me out of here. There's another man wearing a black tuxedo."   4. Men are sensitive in strange ways. If a man has built a fire and the last log does not burn, he will take it personally.   5. If a man prepares dinner for you and the salad contains three or more types of lettuce, he is serious.   6. Male menopause is a lot more fun than fem