Pastor Wa's Blog

When the book men are from Mars and Women from Venus came out, it garnered incredible talking points on the differences among the sexes and their ramifications. I’ve personally never read it, though I think it once was somewhere in my library. Even so, i’ve heard it said endlessly that marriage is no fun. Especially for women. I beg to differ. Probably the happiest women are married ones; sadly, probably the unhappiest ones are also in marriage! Its an interesting paradox. One fact we need to know upfront, A man never holds the key to a woman’s happiness! Never! When a woman makes this mistake, get ready for some serious domestic ISSUES!. A woman’s happiness comes when she knows who she is, and living out that revelation to the max. Here is what I found to be the one determining factor to a woman being happy in marriage. Ready? EVERY HAPPILY MARRIED WOMAN HAS A VERY LOW TOLERANCE FOR BAD BEHAVIOR, EXCUSES, INDECENCY, WEAKNESS AND FOOLISHNESS IN HER HUSBAND! There. I said it. Sh...

Every now and then, shops and business places, homes and hotels close down to get redone. This happens as a necessity. The décor becomes too boring, new ownership, change of identity and entity, or just because. Usually, when we see this sign hanging somewhere, it usually brings a sense of expectation and excitement. Something new is about to be unveiled. What will the new colors be? How will the décor look like? How about the menu? Are they gonna loose that sour waitress? Questions questions questions! It’s usually time for change, because old won’t cut it, we have to close for renovation. Our lives do need renovation as well, especially where relationships are concerned. When was the last time you had a relationship overhaul? Or are you too needy to even dare institute change in the fear that you will loose? A couple of thoughts on renovation The people on the outside do not see what’s going on : Even the closest ones to you do not have to always know and approve what chan...

We will all face a broken or dead relationship at one point or another in life. Its crucial to know the power of moving forward and becoming bigger and better after the hurt. I challenge you to deal with any relationships that need closure in your life, it’s a great way of getting your emotional health back, and your life back 1.      Grieving is necessary : Take the time you need to grieve your loss. It may be a job, a loved one who passed on, a divorce, end of an engagement, or whatever. The reason we mourn is to bring closure to the emotional attachment that we had with the person, and its extremely important to do that. Its also good to note that grief is private and personal and people manifest it differently. Since no two people are alike, go through it your way, and if someone close to you is grieving, allow them to get the emotions out, without necessarily going overboard. Also, remember that grieving MUST have a specified period. I suggest up to six months...

Hey ya'll, I found this somewhere and thought it to be hilarious, with all the stuff being said about men, we need to relax a little and not take life too seriously. So here you are; Go ahead and laugh. 1. Men have higher body temperatures than women. If your heating goes out in winter, I recommend sleeping next to a man. Men are like portable heaters that snore.   2.  A good place to meet a man is at the dry cleaner. These men usually have jobs and bathe. 3. Women take clothing much more seriously than men. I've never seen a man walk into a party and say "Oh, my God, I'm so embarrassed; get me out of here. There's another man wearing a black tuxedo."   4. Men are sensitive in strange ways. If a man has built a fire and the last log does not burn, he will take it personally.   5. If a man prepares dinner for you and the salad contains three or more types of lettuce, he is serious.   6. Male menopause is a lot more fun than fem...

I had a great time on Hope FM Tuesday night with Tessy. As we opened and shared on her show, 'Breath Of Heaven', we had opportunity to delve into some issues that deal with Singles. As a pastor, I've always considered myself familiar with the Challenges of Young and 'not so young' singles. But spending time on the show and from the feedback we received, I realized that the wounds run deeper, the torment rougher and the loneliness unbearable. So, I've decided to share with you some of the truths that I shared on that cold rainy night; Busting the Myths of Single hood. Here are the Myths that have kept Many Singles Held back and Lied to by the enemy. Let's go! 1.   There's a 'Particular' mate for you out there:   This is hogwash! Hakuna! God never makes choices for us, and Marriage is all about choices. If this was true, then it means God is in violation of the Principle of Free will, a Cardinal pillar in the fall of man, Death and Resurrection o...

Hi Ya'll According to a new study, a person's physical appearance allows others to form surprisingly accurate first impressions. So as a lady, you may want to think twice about what kind of image you're projecting with these traits that men check out immediately. It makes a huge difference especially if you are believing for a relationship that will lead to marriage! Hear it from me, and i ain't hating! 1. Your Smile Does it seem sweet and genuine? Does it seem awkward and forced? Or you don’t smile at all? Smiling is a great way of communicating, saying I am happy about life and myself. Make sure the sukuma wiki  or whatever else you had for lunch doesn’t ruin your interactions. 2. Your Hair Guys have no idea what split ends are, and if you mention roots, they may start thinking of reggae. But they do look to see if your hair looks 1. Soft 2. Like its being taken care of and 3. Like it would smell good. Hairstyles don’t have to be fancy and costly, just make sure i...

Relating with a lot of young single people constantly brings up the issues of relationships time and time again. Guys will leave Girls because they complain that once the relationship gets going, women tend to become too Clingy! Yaani totally wrapping yourself around a guy till he can't breathe! Is this true? Has it happened to you? Well, I  thought to post this on here to kinda give some pointers to all the dear sisters out there! Here's how to enjoy relationships with jamaas while avoiding clinging to a guy too much! 1. Have your own life . Remember what you were like when you and your boyfriend first met? You had friends, hobbies, and lots of things that were not centered around him. Make sure you're still keeping up with those things. Doing so will make you happier, more interesting to him, and less likely to fixate entirely on your relationship. You In Love? Don't Forget Your Friends 2. Schedule things out . Having a weekly date night, a monthly day trip, or...