Ladies! Avoid being clingy to a man!

Relating with a lot of young single people constantly brings up the issues of relationships time and time again.
Guys will leave Girls because they complain that once the relationship gets going, women tend to become too Clingy! Yaani totally wrapping yourself around a guy till he can't breathe! Is this true? Has it happened to you?
Well, I  thought to post this on here to kinda give some pointers to all the dear sisters out there!
Here's how to enjoy relationships with jamaas while avoiding clinging to a guy too much!

1. Have your own life. Remember what you were like when you and your boyfriend first met? You had friends, hobbies, and lots of things that were not centered around him. Make sure you're still keeping up with those things. Doing so will make you happier, more interesting to him, and less likely to fixate entirely on your relationship. You In Love? Don't Forget Your Friends

2. Schedule things out. Having a weekly date night, a monthly day trip, or regular evening text session on both your schedules can give you the sense that things are less amorphous and provide both of you with something to look forward to. Plan events ahead of time so you avoid the constant 'why don't you spend time with me?' issues.

3. Tame those "what if?" demons. Stop thinking "what if?" every time you're apart (What if he sees a prettier girl while he's hanging out with his friends? What if he's not calling because he's on the phone with his ex? What if, what if, what if). Whenever your anxious thoughts start to spin out of control, remember that "what if?" is a lot less important than WHAT IS. And then remind yourself of what the reality of your relationship is.

4. Remember that you're great. You're beautiful. You're smart. You're fun. If you weren't, then he wouldn't have started the relationship with you in the first place. Remind yourself from time-to-time of just how amazing you are. Regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not, it will make you feel more secure and centered.

5. Tell him outright. If the reason you're acting clingy is because he's treating you like you don't matter, then it's time for a talk. It may be he doesn't realize how he's making you feel. It may be that he's just not into you anymore. (Yes it may!). Tell him, and if he refuses to work on making things better, Don't hang on to the relationship. It's time to move on

There it is! Hope it makes some things clear!
Let me know what you think!
Pastor Wa

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Unknown said…
Extremely true pastor
May 8, 2010 at 11:30 AM
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