When the person you are with is a B.O.R.E

Sometimes, when relationships go through cycles, some of the stages can almost seem to contradict the very life and purpose of that relationship. You may be with someone that was very exciting in the initial stages. Love is an interesting thing. It really is like a drug high, in the beginning, you are basically are on another planet. You can’t think, your reasoning goes bonkers, they are the perfect human being, suddenly no one understands you at all, you can do anything for them… blah blah.. you know what I mean.
Then for some reason, especially after some time of interaction, (not necessarily sexual), you hit a wall or plateau of sorts. Suddenly, they are boring, or they are not crative or just plotless, or just plain old boring! Many people don’t understand this stage, and they either, 1. Push it further-Let’s get more physical, lets run away, or something crazy like that…. 2. They begin to salivate on what’s cooking on their next door neighbors grill!
If you have ever gotten to this point, well, lemme help you. They may not necessarily be a bore or the relationship ending. Sometimes its your body’s way of saying, I’ve had enough hormones! Give me a break! Or it could be that you need to look at more creative ways to spice up the relationships.
One of the things I’ve found that causes this to happen to relationships is when we have cut out other people from the relationships and its just us two and no more. A few hints may help.
1. Engage some people with you. Visit and spend time with people that are ‘different’ from you. You will be surprised at how your mind will be stimulated in ‘other new ways’ and you may find yourself looking at your friend differently.
2. Don’t get physical. Kissing, heavy petting, sex, only accentuates and intensifies the ‘withdrawal symptoms on the cycle’. The interesting thing is, keeping off physically actually helps you desire each other more. You need to recognize it’s just a phase.
3. Quit drooling over the neighbors grill: That other jamaa isn’t all that you may be thinking. That chic may not be more exciting than the one you are with. It’s just a matter of perception! Because of how your feelings are responding. Oh, and it will take just as much work to get it up to speed with another person if you choose to end the current relationship.
4. Don’t say things you shouldn’t: remember, you are only feeling this way because it’s just a stage in your relationship, so you don’t want to trash that person that loves and cares for you. It’s so easy to say nasty things to people we love, because they irritate us so! Just don’t give in to the temptation.
5. Find a way to “give’ to your relationship: Go out of your way to really do something special for the other person. Buy them a nice gift, take them out for a meal, go watch a movie (Great because you do very little talking during a movie), or take them to their shags!
6. If they are truly boring, and I mean BORING, then maybe it’s time to find someone else! Just ask yourself what caused you to end up with a bore in the first place so you don’t repeat your mistakes again!
There you go, and if you are a Bore, I have a suggestion for you, go get a creativity shower! You may be stinking the whole relationship!
I’m just saying…

Comments

mo'z dimension said…
lol!! pastor wa! m getting me a creativity shower,that sheds a lot of light.
October 6, 2010 at 5:07 AM
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