Pastor Wa's Blog

“It’s been miserable, Gary,” the woman confessed. “We’ve only been married for three years but it has been the worst three years of my life. My husband has just been awful. And what frustrates me so much is that God confirmed that I was supposed to marry him, ten times over.” You could have served the bitterness in her voice to a thousand people. In another conversation, another woman, married not just years, but decades, to a man who proved to be pathological, slipped in the same sigh and words, “But God told me to marry him.” To these and many others who said, “God told me to marry him/her,” I want to cry out, “No, He didn’t.” How can I say that? My response is simple: How can you say the opposite? There is nothing in Scripture that suggests there is just one person we’re ‘supposed’ to marry. Proverbs 31 urges young men to be guided by a woman’s faith and character in making their choice—there is no mention of second guessing some divine destiny. In 1 Corinthians 7

Reblogged  From http://diaryofasuperchamp.wordpress.com   In 2012 ,I was invited to be a member of a panel at a Christian singles conference. After speaking about living a purposeful life, and remaining pure in singleness, the topic of marriage invariably came up. A woman stood up and started pouring out her heart about how she desired a husband. How she was in her late thirties and did not want to be alone anymore. She said that she was on the verge of ‘settling’! In an attempt to comfort her, an older woman whom we will call Sarah stood up and proclaimed that she was single at 60 AND had never married. Sarah started to encourage the younger lady. She said,  look at me, I am 60 and not married but I will not settle. I want what God wants for me and will not settle for less. I have had many counterfeit men come into my life . Sarah then went ahead and started to rattle off about the men that had been   potential suitors   and what was wrong with them. As she spoke, something

Love is awesome. So awesome, it barely comes alone. When a couple makes love, it's not just excitement that happens, its babies as well. And babies, well, they are a whole new ball game. They introduce an incredibly challenging, super demanding, dynamic in relationships that some people opt out of it altogether. The enormous changes that happen to a woman, (And rarely unspoken, the man) during pregnancy can cause significant tension in the home. Here are seven things Men, as the leaders of their homes need to know and do to help women navigate this delicate season. 1. Her Sex Drive will change : Pregnancy introduces intense and often severe hormonal changes in her body. Her sense of smell is acutely keen, her weight here and there (and mostly there), and a whole lot of other things. For some women, (lucky fellas) her sex drive hits an all time high (Ah, these puns). But for many others, it's the opposite that happens. She is totally turned off by even the thought of sex. Y

Contentment is learned. It's a taught trait. In the early days of our childhood, when our parents and guardians learn to begin to draw limits and boundaries on how far we can go, how much we can eat, what we can and can't have, the concept of contentment begins to form in our little minds. But contentment is certainly learnt from just being told no. It is not just taught by highlighting the limits of our behavior, there is another major component of learning contentment. It's learning to enjoy what we have. Yes, enjoying what you have. It's funny we are taught to nag for what we don't have, but we rarely if ever, get taught how to enjoy and be thankful for the things we already have. The definition of being rich is not having plenty of money. It's having 2 of anything. Parents are under constant and incessant pressure to buy the best toys, take their kids to the best schools, get the newest, latest and best there is and very few of them are a match to th

T he institution of marriage has been here since creation. But, lately it has taken a knock. Some statistics say 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. Marital infidelity is on an all time high. We hear horror stories from married couples that shock and perhaps even repulse some of us singles. There is also the push for same sex marriages, open marriages, and come we stay unions. Everywhere, it seems like marriage is NOT what we’ve always thought it to be. But why is this? What is marriage? What is the purpose of marriage? Is marriage for everyone? One of our generation’s greatest needs is to simply redefine marriage from God’s perspective, and help us with making informed choices whether we are married, single and searching, or wanting to live a single life for good. Read Genesis 2:15-24 We need to  get the pressure off marriage. It feels to me like every singles hangout or sermon is a coded message asking, Utaoa lini?  “When will you get married?” What we have