Work, Again?

Relationships take work. Lots of it. And work is tiring. Infact we all work so we don't have to work. At least most of us do.We try as much as we can to separate between work and home life, and for the most part home is viewed as place of rest. Where we don't have to work again. Or at least not in the sense of applying ourselves hard. It's a hard reality to face, but needs to be faced nonetheless, because most people don't think of their current relationships as something that needs work. The natural progression of all things is towards disrepair and damage, relationships included. So it's always kinda strange when i hear people saying, "Things are not what they used to be." *Insert exasperated look*.
What what did you expect?
You haven't spent quality time with him/her, you keep unforgiveness and grudges, you laugh with your friends more, you are looking around and 'admiring' the handsome ones, the sex isn't all that, they are getting fat, money fights, they lack class, you know ....
Things have changed. For worse...
Work is not entertaining. Not to humans. We try and avoid it, but understanding that your relationship needs work will save you some money, and a bucketful of tears.
I find women more sensitive than men when things begin to go wrong in a relationship. Ever had your woman give you one of those 'looks' and say, "what's up?" and you knew she wasn't asking about your nose picking episodes? Yeah, that's what i'm talking about. They pick these vibes it's almost scary.
Mostly, a guy is getting distracted and not inputting more energy into the relationship.
She notices.
Asks.
And you sheepishly reply, nothing.
But you both know there's something.
Soon enough, you are drifting apart.
Small issues are being magnified, fights are getting personal
Time apart is better than time together.
Suzie seems more entertaining than she...
She is nagging now,
You are literally disgusted by his looks.
Jimmy is more funnier and understanding than this jerk.
Darn! I'd rather not even sit next to them....
Yep. You and yours are spewing some serious smoke.
And then, Bam! Or even slowly, relationship is over.
Check into Heartbreak Motel.
Tissues and Jack Daniels tugging along. *Sigh
This scenario happens every single day.
Yet most of us are in relationships that are fast headed there and if we don't stop, and fix things, well...
Your relationship wants commitment, time together, love, forgiveness, common enemies, fidelity... Yes, that  investment.See, if you are going to enter into a relationship. Please do us and the world a favor. Be prepared to work on it. Iron out differences, talk over 'petty' issues, change plans, sacrifice, give, then give some more... and work to build now, so you won't have to work later in life when you don't have the luxury of doing it.
Infact you have to be so knowledgeable of the fact that things are headed for decay if you don't attend to them that you are consistently applying yourself to betterment of your relationship.
It's so funny how we blame the 'other' rascal and call them names when the relationship ends yet we did nothing to avert the crisis.
When we expect the love we had for each other run for decades, with us doing 'nothing' to keep the fire burning, we are being fools. You gotta stop the car and fuel at somepoint.
Or else you'll get stuck.
Stuck long enough for someone else to slow down and offer him. Or her. A ride.
And that may be the last you see of them.
Put something in your relationship today.
So you won't look and find it empty tomorrow.
And add another broken heart to the world.
Broken by foolishness,
and an unwillingness to learn.
I'm just sayin'