Feminism And The Uselessness Of Men
But when those ideals are tied together with the bra burning, men trashing, independent women only ideology that seeks to minimize men to mating agents only on the planet. I cringe at the manifold display of ignorance towards men and their role in life. Because a good cause is used to propagate a tragedy.
It is true there are men responsible for some serious pain in this world. There are women who are scarred for life in the hands of men supposed to be their protectors, providers and caregivers. I weep at the mere thought of little girls molested, women with battered bodies and other unspeakable evils done by men entrusted the responsibility to care. That shouldn't be, and it must be said so loudly and clearly.
Yet i find it to be a bigger tragedy that efforts to care for the weak and vulnerable has ignored the key component is this entire scenario. The man.
You see, in the top list of society's brokenness is one inconsistency. The male is missing, or the male is propagating the brokenness. For the most part.
Listening to empowered women talk about how useless men in today's society are and how women should raise their kids without needing men is not only non-nonsensical but dangerous and should be viewed as thus.
The ideal family set up is one that is led by a man, with a woman who submits to his leadership in the home, with children lovingly obeying their parents and following their lead. That is HOW family is intended to be. Before you jump on me about the submission thing, remember, Submission is a matter of role and function, not significance and worth.
Both the man and woman in relationship are equal in worth and important in significance. The man can't bear children without the woman, the woman cannot create her own seed to bring forth life and so on. The reason there is a need for structure in the home is not just because, but for order's sake. So that things can go smoothly. The Man provides leadership, as he listens, considers and carefully connects with his woman for the best understanding and insight into the situation. If after communicating and deliberating on an issue yet they both can't get to a common solution, then the woman defers to her man. That means that she let's him make the call. And she supports that decision. Wholeheartedly. Now, if for whatever reason things go awry, then the man is ultimately responsible and fully so because he's the leader of the home. That gives him the privilege of leading, but also the fearful task of being responsible for both the good and the bad that takes place there. That ought to lead him to connect more with the woman and lead lovingly, because he will need a lot of grace if things go wrong.
In trying to create a society where stability exists. In trying to empower women for life, i think its very critical that their understanding of their roles in the relationship are taught and modeled. Submitting to the man whose name you bear is not a menial and disgraceful thing but a powerful place and honorable place to be at. Any two headed thing is a monster, and when a woman is able to function in her place from a point of understanding and grace, then great good can be achieved.
Any teaching in the feminist movement that castigates men and labels them as dangerous predators to be avoided and shunned at all cost, any ideology that seeks to delete the male persona from life is not only foolish and dangerous, but seeks to burden those it seeks to help with a responsibility they aren't meant to bear and exclude the ones able to do it.
I would rather we seek to engage the male in healing their relationships and helping them both know and take their place in empowering the women in their lives.
That way its a win win
Not an overt feminist ideology that only propagates disrespect and disregard for men and their important role in the women's lives.
I'm just saying....
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Submission requires more strength than credited. Ju jitsu masters often implored their followers to submit like willow trees, not resist like the proud oak.
In winter, any tree, such as the willow, that was willing to allow itself to bend, would survive without breaking. The proud oak would refuse to budge and would eventually break under the snow's weight.
Submission is evidence of strength of mind and character, not weakness.
A good read.