Pastor Wa's Blog

Some people have no sense of respect whatsoever for other’s personal spaces Part of the challenge in being African and having all things in common is that people will tend to feel like they are responsible and have to have a say so in your life. Like it’s up to them to know and be involved with what’s happening to you. Now, this does one of two things 1.        1.  Creates very dependent people who cannot think or move without someone else saying so 2.         2.  Very frustrated individuals who have to put up with nosey ‘friends’ Let’s talk about the second bunch. The others will be addressed later. If you are a private person, you want your personal time to be respected. Period. That’s not up for discussion. It’s your sanctuary. Your refuge. The place where all things that you are processing and sorting through in your mind and emotions get resolved. It’s an extremely crucial thing that your personal time is not meddled with. By ...

When people believe stuff, especially when it’s taught them during a needy time of their life, they can tend to give allegiance to levels that would make you cringe. Unnecessarily What you believe determines your choices, that’s why in my work as a coach and pastor, I don’t try to change behavior. It never works. It never will. I choose to work smart. I investigate your beliefs and experiences. It doesn’t change that I still can’t stand people that make stupid choices in the name of Christianity. I refuse the notion that being a Christian and being dumb have anything in common. It’s actually the opposite Proverbs says it. It calls that being a fool, and terribly cautions us against it. So I can’t stand when people tell others not to do anything about relationships going bad or marriages on the rocks in the name of prayer and waiting on God Sorry but I don’t buy that. That’s monkey business God will not do your part in this life That’s why He says, ‘come we reason together’ Otherwise wh...

Women are entrusted with an incredible gift. I believe it's from God. I honestly do. It's called intuition.  The dictionary defines it as; D irect perception of truth, fact, etc, independent of any reasoning process; immediate apprehension. Wow! I wonder how many women have sat down and thought this through. I wonder how many husbands have thought this through when they are about to make huge life changing decisions. Direct perception of truth! I think it was meant to protect women and their families from danger. Smart women use it. They understand what they have. And don't hesitate to employ it when the moment demands. And it does. Many many times. Every woman will face opportunities and situations where use of her intuition will become handy. Even lifesaving. An ability to have direct perception of truth, fact, etc., independent of any reasoning process; immediate apprehension. Gut feeling. Especially on matters of love. It seems to me women allow their feelings to...