The Problem with dating an Angry Soul
That's the Bible, not some grey haired Philosopher seated somewhere sipping Lime cola.
And I Agree.
To rest mean's to abide. To make home at.
To be free at.
Angry people are souls that have decided to stay angry and execute actions stemming from their feelings. They feel entitled to live out their anger and unleash it on others.
They have decided to allow anger dwell and abide in their life.
Their reasons are as varied as their are interesting.
It could be hurt, being taken advantage off, childhood tapes, or just plain ol' bad manners.
Anger is real.
It's a valid human emotion that can be used to right a wrong, or fight an injustice
It's what helps us make choices to protect ourselves from being taken advantage of or even abused.
Even so, anger can be a terrible master.
With mighty and destructive power.
And an ability to really hurt others, and to do so with incredible cruelty.
Ask anyone that's been in a relationship with an angry person.
The outbursts,
The lashing out, mean words,
physical aggression, tension...
The energy produced by anger carries an atmosphere with it few want to be associated with.
It's almost tangible. And even dreadful sometimes.
You see the fact is; anger at a wrong done is normal. We all experience that.
What i'm talking about here is anger stemming from hurt. Anger that's deep seated and rooted in something that has happened in someone's life that's not deal with.
At least not dealt with properly.
Such that the soul has not healed.
Every so often, you run into a relationships with such kind of men or women.
And you soon begin to drink from their cup of wrath and fury.
I'm surprised people stay in such relationships. I still don't get it.
I think they overestimate their ability to deal with angry souls
Perhaps they start hoping for change or a turn around.
Praying they will have a calming effect on the culprit.
Or that Love and compassion will right the root cause of the anger.
In almost all cases, the culprits previous relationship ended because of that same anger.
The problem with going out with someone that's angry is that you are dating someone that's sick
Emotionally.
They are operating from a point of reference.
And it's a point of pain.
You see, hurt people hurt other people.
They have been hurt and so they are bleeding from what was done to them.
Eventually they will do the same to others. Anyone that gets close to them will definitely be a target (Willingly or not) of their unresolved bile.
The best way to help such a soul is to not get the Saviour Syndrome. The Superhero Mentality.
This is where you think that your relating with them will treat their illness.
It won't.
Your best bet is to confront them and make demands.
If you love them and want to be in a relationship with them, confront them and make demands.
Because while it possible to have a relationship with them, you must commit not to move forward till they get help.
So you get in there and make demands when the bad tempers start spewing out.
Oh, I believe in making demands by the way. No matter how politically incorrect that sounds.
Make demands they get help. Not demands they change.
Demanding change will only earn you broken promises. And maybe a bloody nose!
You demand they get external help and deal with what the issue is till the anger is resolved.
You should flatly refuse to allow toxic anger in your relationship.
There should be no cursing, dish throwing, hitting, threatening, slapping, meanness, or any other form of unrestrained anger in the person you are dating or courting.
Refuse to allow it. Don't even make excuses for tolerating it.
Why?
Because this anger is an emotional illness that needs to be cured and gotten rid off. Not stroked like a spoiled Tom-cat waiting for his turn at the milk dish.
If you don't, you will eventually suffer untold anguish from your condoning wrong thinking and behaviour.
A result of misplaced sympathy
Misplaced sympathy is where you feel for someone that has bad behaviour just because you love them or care for them and so you condone their inability to relate to others in a calm, civilised and restrained manner. Hoping your wooshe will bring magical change.
It never works
Will never work.
If you want a relationship with an angry person, you must confront them and demand they seek help or not have a relationship with you at all.
If you can't confront them and get them to go get help, I have a 3 letter piece of advice for you
RUN!
Run like a monkey up the hills
I'm just saying....
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