Pastor Wa's Blog

Establishing autonomy, space and family identity is every married man's highest ambition. Men are not strange creatures, we just receive a great deal of validation from imparting our own identity and personal signature to things we consider our own. Probably stems from the command Adam got from God to name everything, and God actually honored every name Adam gave to creation. On the wedding day, the man imparts his name to his wife. All children bear the man's name as their family name. It is an awesome experience for a man when he sees his lineage going out there and doing significant things, because really, he figures, that it's him out there. But for this dynamic to fully be expressed and divulged in its fullness, the man must have his autonomy uninterrupted with and his freedom to express himself unfettered. With the current state of things due to men's irresponsibility and the absentee father, things have been going tough, especially for the married m...

Of course men do listen! While that in itself may sound like an oxymoron, (some people assume masculinity and deafness are synonymous) men do listen. For any woman to want to get through to a man, she must be willing to learn man-speak. How to talk that man's language. Before you castigate me for suggesting something else that women must do for a man, consider this.  Most men are raised NOT to be like women.  That is the single most challenging issue when it comes to men expressing themselves. We are not trying to be something, we are trying not to be something (Another whole story). So when a woman attempts to talk to a man like she talks to a woman, she will hit a wall. A brick wall. A rule you may want to consider is, think like a man to get through to him. Here's a few pointers: 1. Don't cut a man to size. Normally, when you do this, he will spend the time he should be using listening to you trying to collect his ego from wherever you knocked it. When you ...