Sex before marriage. Honestly, What's the fuss?
We are wired for sex. This is true of how we are made, and how we live. Think of it, our identity is tied in our sexuality, male or female. It all starts at birth, and by the time we hit teenage, our hormones are raging and sexual feelings soaring.
Then you meet someone new, you like them, they like you, the chemistry is unreal, you can’t eat, think, or sleep without them in your mind. When you get together… is like there is enough electricity between you two to put Kenya Power out of a job (Which actually may be a good thing seeing they can’t keep our lights on for a straight 24 hours)! You realize you love them and they love you, and you have what John Hagee calls an ‘overwhelming urge to merge’! If everything is in place, you have love and understanding, then you can go ahead and consummate your passions, right?
Weeeell, let’s just say, that’s the easy way out. Or at least so it seems. Scripture commands us not to do it yet. At least not until our wedding night. The Big question in every single persons mind is, “Why would a loving caring God, that made me this way, and gave me this ‘things’ want to withhold such ‘out-of-this-world pleasure”? I mean come ‘on, surely why not?
I think the reason lies beyond what we can see at the moment. Especially if we are in a sexual relationship already! I believe that knowing the reason behind the rule, helps us deal with our bodies sensibly and with discipline. Here’s a couple of facts about this sweet and sour maneno.
1. Sex before marriage places consummation before commitment. You should never be paid before you work, makes sense? You have to know that and be willing to live with that principle in life. So, you shouldn’t be seeking to consummate it first, seek to enter marriage first! Get into Marriage! Get into marriage! Get into Marriage! Get it? Which sorta leads to the next point…
2. Sex bila Marriage cheapens what we should by all means, esteem highly and regard with uttermost Value: the moment you purchase a car and drive it out of the showroom, its value dramatically drops. Why? Simple answer; it’s used! Well, sex is the same way. Guard yourself before you cheapen yourself. Oh, and it’s not just in the eyes of other people. But it messes up your own self esteem. Oh, and by the way, once you do it. It becomes easier to keep doing it the next time!
3. The initial sexual act is intended as a sealing of a blood covenant: Yes, When a man’s erect penis penetrates a woman’s hymen, breaking it and having blood all over himself, the covenant they made (By the speaking their vows) is sealed. That’s the reason God designed for men and women to be virgins at marriage.
4. Sex before marriage clouds your judgment and your will power to make sober decisions. Yes it does! Once you are having sex, it becomes very difficult to separate you two, or even make independent decisions about marriage, money, future, blah blah blah; simply because you develop a sense of obligation to the person you are getting it on with. As a pastor I found out that couples in a sexual relationship before marriage have the hardest time receiving counsel and adjusting their lives to make wise choices. Just an observation.
5. There is no other known relationship that can sufficiently take care of the consequences of a sexual union other than a Marriage. What’s the consequence of sex? Intense pleasure, emotional, spiritual and soul connection, children, dependence, STI’s, Feelings of love and being wanted, hurt, disappointment, vulnerability, the list is endless. Friendship will not cut it, being just acquaintances doesn’t help much either. These things are only capable of being addressed and taken care of well in a loving, stable, godly marriage.
I’m just saying!
Then you meet someone new, you like them, they like you, the chemistry is unreal, you can’t eat, think, or sleep without them in your mind. When you get together… is like there is enough electricity between you two to put Kenya Power out of a job (Which actually may be a good thing seeing they can’t keep our lights on for a straight 24 hours)! You realize you love them and they love you, and you have what John Hagee calls an ‘overwhelming urge to merge’! If everything is in place, you have love and understanding, then you can go ahead and consummate your passions, right?
Weeeell, let’s just say, that’s the easy way out. Or at least so it seems. Scripture commands us not to do it yet. At least not until our wedding night. The Big question in every single persons mind is, “Why would a loving caring God, that made me this way, and gave me this ‘things’ want to withhold such ‘out-of-this-world pleasure”? I mean come ‘on, surely why not?
I think the reason lies beyond what we can see at the moment. Especially if we are in a sexual relationship already! I believe that knowing the reason behind the rule, helps us deal with our bodies sensibly and with discipline. Here’s a couple of facts about this sweet and sour maneno.
1. Sex before marriage places consummation before commitment. You should never be paid before you work, makes sense? You have to know that and be willing to live with that principle in life. So, you shouldn’t be seeking to consummate it first, seek to enter marriage first! Get into Marriage! Get into marriage! Get into Marriage! Get it? Which sorta leads to the next point…
2. Sex bila Marriage cheapens what we should by all means, esteem highly and regard with uttermost Value: the moment you purchase a car and drive it out of the showroom, its value dramatically drops. Why? Simple answer; it’s used! Well, sex is the same way. Guard yourself before you cheapen yourself. Oh, and it’s not just in the eyes of other people. But it messes up your own self esteem. Oh, and by the way, once you do it. It becomes easier to keep doing it the next time!
3. The initial sexual act is intended as a sealing of a blood covenant: Yes, When a man’s erect penis penetrates a woman’s hymen, breaking it and having blood all over himself, the covenant they made (By the speaking their vows) is sealed. That’s the reason God designed for men and women to be virgins at marriage.
4. Sex before marriage clouds your judgment and your will power to make sober decisions. Yes it does! Once you are having sex, it becomes very difficult to separate you two, or even make independent decisions about marriage, money, future, blah blah blah; simply because you develop a sense of obligation to the person you are getting it on with. As a pastor I found out that couples in a sexual relationship before marriage have the hardest time receiving counsel and adjusting their lives to make wise choices. Just an observation.
5. There is no other known relationship that can sufficiently take care of the consequences of a sexual union other than a Marriage. What’s the consequence of sex? Intense pleasure, emotional, spiritual and soul connection, children, dependence, STI’s, Feelings of love and being wanted, hurt, disappointment, vulnerability, the list is endless. Friendship will not cut it, being just acquaintances doesn’t help much either. These things are only capable of being addressed and taken care of well in a loving, stable, godly marriage.
I’m just saying!
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Jane
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Sometimes our pastor was speaking on blood covenant and how every old T. covenants were sealed by a blood. Then a thought came to me abt marriage convent n the blood involved, then i dismissed it has evil thought, its now that am realizing it was a revelation, Thanks man for your nice articles. We appreciate your work.
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