Pastor Wa's Blog

The big debate that has raged on over time has always been, what point does the woman in a mans life hold. is she first? and if she is, are there relationships that the guy has that she cannot meddle in? and if she can't meddle, why? His job, his friends, his relaz, the kids.... bla bla bla. But the most emotive one, I've come across is the question of his mother. The mans mother. some of the biggest challenges in marriage and relationships between two people will be around in laws and especially the mother-in-law. In the African context, the mother is superior, the wife comes into the family and joins herself to them. She is not a priority nor is she as important as the mother. But really, how true to the laws of relationship and a healthy union is that principle? Every woman wants to be number 1 in her relationship with the man in her life. That rule, ladies and gentlemen, will NOT change. So when a man begins to court a woman and enter into a relationship with h...

So I was reading that Linda Muthama proudly calls herself Nyambane’s second wife. He is managing more than just her ‘music affairs’ as well. Has a baby by him and the usual blah blah… By the way, all this has happened a while back And of course as usual, it was fodder for the blogs and media. Worst of all, there were chics telling Linda to do what she wants, it’s her life. Now, I don’t know whether to just rant or try and put this entire mountain of a relationship stink-hog in perspective. Because something stinks. And it stinks to high heaven. Someone ought to call it what it is; Relationship bull. When a single young woman of notable influence in this country, goes ahead and becomes a second wife to a man of equal media exposure and women go ahead and cheer her on, something is wrong! Terribly wrong! You see the truth of the matter is; you single young thing, building a man, a marriage and a family is work. Loads of it. By the time you see a ‘made’ man, some of you ...